Counselling offers you the time and space to explore your experiences and emotions in a safe, non-judgmental and confidential environment. I hold the belief that each individual knows themselves better than anyone else and can make real changes towards a happier life when provided with the right conditions. This is based on my training in Person-Centred Therapy.
Counselling is not about being given advice or told what to do, rather I will walk alongside you to support you in better understanding yourself and working towards change.
I really enjoy using metaphors to explore ideas and feelings. Here a couple of metaphors that have been used to describe the counselling process;
The Laundry Cupboard
Coming to counselling can be a bit like opening the door to a messy cupboard that you haven’t sorted through for a long time. Things have piled up, become creased, fallen off shelves. Perhaps there are things in there you had completely forgotten about. The thought of tidying it all up feels overwhelming, maybe even insurmountable. It might be tempting to close the door and walk away. Instead, working together, we can slowly take things out of the cupboard and have a look at them before folding them neatly and putting them back in the right place. Slowly but surely, the cupboard feels less overwhelming and more ordered again. This is how I believe how engaging with counselling sessions can feel.
Imagine two people in a room. One is blindfolded (Person A) and the other (Person B) stands behind them. The Person A must get from one end of the room to the other. There might be various obstacles or twists and turns. The end of the room might not even be in sight. Person B is there to gently guide but never to lead or to tell person A what to do or where to step. The Person a is free to walk in whichever direction they choose. Perhaps Person B will at times offer suggestions or reflections on what is happening, but it is always Person A’s choice where they continue to walk. I really like how this illustrates how your counselling process is very much led by you, never by your Counsellor. They are there to simply walk alongside you, gently guiding and making the journey possible.